The initial focus of my work is to establish a safe space for you to feel comfortable and trusting, so you can share your story with me. I will then conduct a thorough background assessment to gauge the extent of obsessive compulsive behaviour / sex addiction to identify the root causes that influence the problem(s). Often, sex addiction is a symptom of deeper emotional or psychological issues.
My therapy aims to explore and address these underlying problems, such as past trauma, low self-esteem or unresolved emotional conflicts.
I use a therapeutic approach called Psychodynamic Psychotherapy in order to explore everything about you and all your past experiences, good and bad, including family, cultural, social and religious aspects.
I will integrate Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) to produce a constructive action plan to challenge anxiety and negative intrusive thoughts. I will also use Transactional Analysis (TA) to increase your awareness of how you think about certain situations, how you emotionally respond, and the behavioural outcome.
Key steps of your individual sex addiction relapse prevention plan
In conjunction with the therapy, we will work on a recovery and relapse plan involving several key steps and strategies. It is a customised plan for you individual triggers, behaviours, and needs.
- Exploring and identifying a comprehensive list of potential triggers
These will be either internal triggers, emotional states such as stress, loneliness and boredom, or external triggers such as specific situations, places, people, or activities that spark urges.
- Developing coping strategies
This is about developing healthy distractions and engaging for example in hobbies, exercise, meditation, or creative activities to shift the negative focus. This new life change will be tracked weekly through goal-setting exercises in therapy.
I will teach you to practice deep breathing, mindfulness, and progressive muscle relaxation to manage stress and cravings.
We will establish a healthy routine that is a daily schedule with productive activities, exercise and self-care to minimise idle time and procrastination.
Finally, we’ll create and emergency relapse prevention plan, including a list of activities or actions to take when experiencing intense urges.
- Modifying your immediate environment
This is to limit or restrict access to triggering materials or websites.
- Developing healthy relationships
You will learn to establish healthy and clear personal boundaries to maintain emotional stability, reduce triggers and openly discuss feelings.
- Focusing on self-reflection and accountability
You will commit to record thoughts, feelings and triggers on a daily basis, and track successes in your recovery journey. We’ll have regular check-ins through one-to-one therapeutic sessions.
- Managing Relapse
You will learn to recognise early warning signs indicating a potential relapse and how addiction manifests within the brain and can influence reactions to learnt neural patterns of behaviour (e.g. increased emotional stress, isolation, escalating thoughts, procrastination, boredom, conflict). You will be able to plan specific actions if a relapse seems imminent.
- Celebrating progress
We will regularly acknowledge success and celebrate your achievements to reinforce positive behaviour, increase self-confidence and improve self-worth.
- Implementing lifestyle changes
This is about repeating healthy habits such as maintaining a balanced diet, regular exercise, and adequate sleep to support your overall well-being.
- Driving continuous improvement
As your recovery journey broadens and you will adapt and adjust to a new way of life, you will be able to modify your plan based on what works for you as and wheb needed.
This plan has been successful in helping people achieve recovery from sex addiction. It is an ongoing process of commitment and accountability that will give you the tools to live happier and healthier sexual life and relationships.
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